Collaborative.

My therapeutic style is warm, interactive, and supportive, while also encouraging of people to be reflective and honest in order to make lasting changes. I collaborate with couples in determining what is and isn’t working for them, exploring issues with a balance of sensitivity and humor, asking non-judgmental questions and offering ideas they can practice at home. I work with couples on trusting each other, being present and vulnerable, tolerating uncomfortable feelings, and remembering to turn toward each other when needing to reconnect.

Appreciation, Acceptance, Adjustment.

Of significance in my work with couples is helping them think about what I call the three As – Appreciation, Acceptance, and Adjustment, as I believe that taking in the good parts, allowing for pieces each wishes were different in the other, and shifting unhelpful behaviors are the foundation of a healthy relationship. Through our work, people learn to listen for meaning below the surface, slow down and respond to each other’s feelings (rather than continuing in habits of blaming, defensiveness, and reactivity), and get to a place of feeling more cared for and connected with their partners. I help people understand the past in order to create the future they want, having more compassion and fun in their relationship, as well as deepening their emotional and physical intimacy.